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Mentor Me… But Don’t Tell Me What to Do


Executive & Personal Coach | Leadership Communication Specialist | Authenticity & Purpose Advocate | Growth-Oriented Mentor


Online | Presentation | Free webinar | 1 MDC unit

Debby Spaltmann

Mentor Me… But Don’t Tell Me What to Do

When

August 14, 2025    
All Day

Debby Spaltmann is a seasoned executive and personal coach, certified with the DFC and trained as a Marshall Goldsmith Executive Stakeholder Centered Coach. With over 35 years of experience in strategic marketing, public relations, and leadership communications, Debby brings a rare blend of clarity, insight, and compassion to her work.

She draws on a rich foundation of psychological approaches, including CBT, NLP, Gestalt Therapy, ACT, and mindfulness and is known for helping leaders bridge the gap between who they are and who they wish to become. Through her brand, Destiny Sculpting, Debby empowers mentors, coaches, and executives to grow boldly, act wisely, and lead with purpose.

Mentor Me… But Don’t Tell Me What to Do

What happens when a mentee shows up, yet quietly resists the mentoring process?

In this 60-minute session, Debby Spaltmann unpacks a common but rarely discussed challenge in mentoring: the paradox of help-resistance. Drawing on her expertise in leadership communication and the Authentic Leadership model, Debby guides us through the emotional, psychological, and relational terrain of mentoring someone who is present but not fully engaged.

The session will include storytelling, practical frameworks, and evidence-based strategies to help mentors stay grounded, responsive, and effective, even when their guidance is subtly deflected or ignored.

Debby will speak for approximately 40 minutes, followed by an interactive Q&A and discussion designed to foster reflection and insight among peers.

What Participants Will Gain From the Session

✅ A practical lens on resistance in mentoring
✅ Real-world strategies to maintain connection and trust
✅ A deeper understanding of communication dynamics
✅ Confidence in navigating difficult mentoring moments
✅ A compassionate, grounded approach to mentoring

Connect with Me

Keynotes:

  • Mentoring in the Face of Resistance: Turning Pushback into Progress
  • Learn to recognize subtle signs of help-resistance and transform them into opportunities for trust, openness, and growth.

  • The Paradox of Guidance: When “I Want Help” Meets “Don’t Tell Me What to Do”
  • Explore the emotional and psychological dynamics behind mentees who seek support but struggle with accepting direction.

  • Staying Grounded When Advice Lands Lightly
  • Develop the presence and communication skills to remain effective even when your guidance is deflected or ignored.

  • Building Connection Without Overstepping
  • Discover frameworks for maintaining rapport and influence while respecting boundaries and autonomy.

  • From Friction to Flow: Navigating Difficult Mentoring Moments
  • Turn resistance into constructive dialogue that empowers mentees to own their journey.

  • Lead with Compassion, Coach with Clarity
  • Adopt a mentoring approach rooted in authenticity, emotional intelligence, and purposeful communication.